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The Petite Philosopher

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Philosophy, Travel

On monuments.

“We shape our buildings; thereafter they shape us.” – Winston Churchill

A few months ago Notre Dame fire stirred up many emotions in me. When a co-worker of mine showed me images of the cathedral engulfed in flames, I felt my heart sink. My initial reaction was sadness and fear, as I was worried the fire would completely consume Notre Dame and there would be nothing left. For the next hour, I kept my computer on, as I continued to watch the fire rage on. About a month prior, I had just taught my Adventures in World History class a unit on monuments. Throughout my lessons (which actually included Notre Dame Cathedral), I would remind my students that our way of life is shaped by our physical, spiritual, and cultural environment, and that it is best exemplified by our buildings. Monuments and architecture in general are important because they closely reflect the way humans live and what we value. Now, this is the history teacher in me talking. Personally speaking, Notre Dame is also a symbol of a city that holds a special place in my heart. Paris is the first city I visited in Europe. For my life up until that point, it was my dream and my goal to visit Paris. Notre Dame was the first iconic site I saw in Paris, and it was this trip in particular that shaped my passion for travel and pushed forward my interest in art, history, and culture. 

Along with many other people, I shared my views of Notre Dame on social media. Together we feared the ultimate destruction of this historical monument. However, I started to see that many of these feelings were seen as illegitimate because how dare we care more about a building than marginalized people or events that resulted in great loss of life. But I think these views completely miss the point. In those moments of watching the fire, I reflected on the importance of such monuments in our world history and my personal connection. I shouldn’t have to feel guilty for being sad about watching Notre Dame burn. 

Fortunately, it was reported that the main structure survived, many of the artifacts had been recovered, and ultimately the cathedral will be rebuilt. My fears have been absolved, but that doesn’t mean I should feel I need to take back what I felt in the moment the event was unfolding. Yes, I am completely aware of how millions of dollars have been donated by the wealthy elite, who could have used their money towards larger humanitarian crises. Though that does not sit well with me, I cannot ignore my initial praise of the significance of monuments. Just last month while visiting London, I once gain caught myself in awe of many historical structures like the Tower Bridge, Houses of Parliament, and statutes and that honour past figures or groups of people. Even the churches of Saint Paul’s Cathedral and Westminster Abbey felt meaningful to me, though I am not religious. Don’t get me wrong, individual lives are more important than buildings, but the lesson I want to be learned here is that monuments like Notre Dame, the pyramids, the Great Wall of China, etc. are testaments of the power of humanity and are part of our collective identity. The more we erase the past, the more likely it will be forgotten. 

 

August 22, 2019

Philosophy

Six years.

“One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life. That word is Love.” – Socrates

I have a hard time remembering my life B.B. (Before Brandon). We met in grade nine, where I had the biggest crush on him. With friends, I would watch him play guitar in the music room during lunch. Apparently my mother-in-law, who was teacher at the school, just needed to ask me if I knew where he was. Sure, that sounds a bit creepy, but hey, I was young. It took Brandon couple more years to catch up, and we officially started dating not too long after my sixteenth birthday. When I tell my students our story, they often respond with, “Miss, your life is GOALS!” I am very fortunate to have already spent more than half of my life with my true love. I have said it many times, both aloud and on this blog, that Brandon is my best friend. It may sound cliche and cheesy to some, but there’s no better way for me to put it. Every day is fresh and new with him. Brandon calms my nerves and settles my anxiety; he makes me laugh and smile like no one else. And I still love to listen to him play guitar. Though it has been only six years of marriage, our story is much older, a story that is continuing to be written. I look forward to the many exciting chapters ahead!

I love you, Brandon! Happy 6 Years!

July 19, 2019

Philosophy

On social media.

“Basically, at the very bottom of life, which seduces us all, there is only absurdity, and more absurdity. And maybe that’s what gives us our joy for living, because the only thing that can defeat absurdity is lucidity.” – Albert Camus

Social media is toxic. There, I said it. It’s time for me to get real. The thing is, I felt like I’ve always presented myself as real online, but the truth is that I was losing my real self the more I posted. When I started my blog almost three years ago, it began as a passion project where I could write and post pictures about the things I love or are interested in. My blog had a very humble beginning, where I used free WordPress templates. I thought it looked good, and I enjoyed sharing the pictures my husband took of me and my outfits. After a few months I started to notice that there were other local bloggers, but their blogs were so professional. They had their own website domain, professionally taken photographs, and affiliate links. It was at this time I felt a need to step up my game. I purchased my own domain, and even paid someone to design a template and convert my old website into a new one. I did this because I felt that no one would look at my blog if it wasn’t as polished as the other ones I had seen. I also felt the need to post more photos on Instagram. I read somewhere that if you post more consistently, more people would be engaged with your blog. I would also try to include every hashtag possible to lead people to my blog via Instagram. I was really naive to think this is all it took; I had a professional website, my husband took good photos, and I posted consistently. This is when I discovered how fake Instagram and the whole blogging world is. 

I suspect most of my followers are bots. This was something I was honestly oblivious to when I started blogging. Canned comments and fake accounts – this is what people are competing against. I strongly suspect that many bloggers/influencers even purchase followers. Apparently you are more likely to get followers if you already have thousands. This perpetuates the fact that Instagram is rifled with inauthenticity. 

I also strived to keep the content real, but it wasn’t always. My husband and I would take photos, but I wouldn’t post them until a week or two later. I would save up pictures and posts in order to keep the content consistent. Though that may not be a major issue, it is intensified by other influencers. Outfits are only worn for a staged photoshoot, or the captions are flat-out lies. This ultimately creates a false reality, one that leads to feelings of inadequacy. I am guilty of having feelings of envy and jealously, when in reality these people are just trying to look real when being incredibly fake. This brought out the competitive nature in me, as it would with others, to feel that likes and follows are testaments of how good or valuable one’s content is. 

Relationships in my life have also been negatively affected. The people closest to me, like my immediate family or childhood friends, know me very well and have never thought anything different about me since I started blogging. I did notice, however, that I was being negatively judged by acquaintances or people who I thought knew me better. I became viewed as a self-obsessed egocentric snob. This of course is far from the truth. What started as something to connect with people ended up creating more divisions. This is hurtful. 

This will not be the end of my blog, but a new beginning. I am abandoning the fashion posts, but I will continue to share my random philosophical musings. I’m getting tired of having to meet unrealistic standards. My self esteem has gone down since I started the blog, when my hope was that it would go up. Yes, social media has been positive for reconnecting with old friends or past students, but overall, it has made a negative impact on my life. I don’t think everyone engaged in social media is a phoney, but it is a system that encourages it. I’ll still post on Instagram, but I’d like to think of this as a fresh start. Cheers to that!

May 17, 2019

Philosophy

On stuff.

“I am what is mine. Personality is the original personal property.” – Norman O. Brown

Ok, so I’m going to start off by saying that no, I have not watched the Netflix show Tidying Up, nor have I read anything by Marie Kondo. It has, however, been the topic of conversation in my staff room and every social media platform. Watching everyone talk or document their decluttering has inspired me, despite the fact that cleaning my house gives me anxiety. This is the main reason why I haven’t brought myself to watch the show.

My house is filled with stuff – mainly vinyl records, books, and clothes. And while this stuff does end up making areas of my house look cluttered, I find that it helps assert my identity. When someone walks into my house, they can easily observe that I have a passion for music, art, and travel through the variety of collections of books and records I have on display. A lot of these items have memories attached to them, therefore making them more meaningful than just average trinkets. I’m definitely not a hoarder, but I would describe myself and my husband as collectors. This does, however, make it a lot more difficult for us to clean up, even if there are items collecting dust that no longer have a purpose like broken laptops or books I never really connected with.

I guess with me, it’s more about organizing than throwing things away. I tend to put things in piles or a junk room with the mentality ‘out of sight, out of mind’. But once I do set time aside to tackle a mess, when in doubt, I just need to throw it out. This has actually proven to be a lot more difficult for my husband than me. Everything we own just seems to have some kind of personal connection that makes it difficult to let go of. The same thing can also be said about my classroom. I just have so many books, binders, and posters, all of which I think hold some kind of importance to my teaching or make my classroom an extension of my personality.

Though it is important to declutter, I could never be a minimalist because the stuff in my house defines me. I think empty houses stress me out more than ones filled with stuff. For me, houses like this have no personality, are sterile, and feel more like a hotel than a home. When I’m gone, my stuff will no longer matter, so while I’m alive I want to enjoy the stuff that I have.

May 8, 2019

Fashion, Travel

Wandering through Wynwood

“There is no harm in repeating a good thing.” – Plato

One of my favourite places we visited on our trip to Miami last year was the Wynwood art district. Brandon and I both wanted to return this year because the neighbourhood has such a hip and vibrant feel. Though its most famous for Wynwood Walls and street art, the food and drinks were equally enjoyed by the two of us. Looking for a tasty beverage? My recommendation is the Miami Mojito Company, which offers multiple variations/flavours of the famous Cuban drink. For lunch, we loved our meal at KYU, which honestly had some of the best fried chicken we’ve ever had. If you’re in need of a sweet treat, look no further than the famed Salty Donut. These donuts are pretty intense, but also delicious. We ended our day at 1-800-Lucky, which can be best described as an Asian cafeteria and bar. Thai meatballs and sausage, poke bowls, dumplings, and even unicorn ice cream were thoroughly eaten and enjoyed. Even though we had been to Wynwood before, this time almost everything felt new!

Dress: Free People. Bag: Toino Abel. Shoes: Katie & Kelly (newer version here). Earrings: Aldo. Sunglasses: Ray-Ban. Lips: MAC Chili.

April 30, 2019

Fashion, Travel

State of the Art

“The job of the artist is always to deepen the mystery.” – Francis Bacon

As many are aware, Brandon and I love going to art galleries. Last year, we visited the Bass on Miami Beach and loved its quirky and thought-provoking exhibits. We visited the Bass again the year, but also checked out the PAMM (Perez Art Museum Miami), located near downtown on the mainland. While the art inside was interesting, it was the building and its grounds that we actually enjoyed more. Located right on the sea, the museum is surrounded by palm trees, sculptures, and intriguing interactive art. Both Brandon and I agree that we tend to appreciate art more when its engaging, whether emotionally and physically. This art gallery delivered on both, with art examining race and gender, among other social issues. It was a great way to end our last evening in Miami.

Dress: Asos. Bag: Loeffler Randall. Shoes: DLG (old, similar here). Sunglasses: Ray-Ban. Earrings: Madewell. Lips: Colourpop I’m Upset.

April 16, 2019

Fashion, Travel

Garden Party

“Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.” – Albert Einstein

I have to admit it – I’m a murderer. Well actually, a plant murderer. I just cannot keep a plant alive. For someone who loves flowers, it’s quite sad to confess that they never have a chance of surviving once in my possession. I have even killed lucky bamboo, which apparently is difficult to do. So as someone who doesn’t have a green thumb, it’s best for me to just admire plants rather than attempt to take care of them.

When Brandon and I visited Miami, I just had to check out the Miami Beach Botanical Garden, which is a lovely spot to sneak away from all the tourists. Though it was rather small, it was a beautiful space filled with exotic greenery, ponds, and lots of butterflies fluttering about. Walking throughout the garden felt peaceful and serene. It’s areas such as this that make me appreciate nature more, and the general beauty that surrounds us.

Dress: Amanda Uprichard. Bag: Clare V. Shoes: Sam Edelman. Earrings: My Beloved Crafts. Sunglasses: Le Specs. Lips: Colourpop Ghosted.

April 1, 2019

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My name is Vanessa and I’m a senior social science secondary school teacher who has a passion for the dramatic arts, philosophy, and music. On my spare time I love to attend concerts, shop, and travel.

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